Lets face it, we have to admit that all human beings make mistakes, no body is perfect and sooner or later, we will get to a point where our mistakes need to be understood.
Relationships are not excluded form mistakes and they are very delicate to the suffering they cause. That is why we have to learn how to swallow our pride and admit that we were wrong when it comes to confessing mistakes to our partner.
However, not everybody has the humility to say sorry directly, but if that is the case, it can still be done in writing.
Writing a letter requires some thinking, but writing a “sorry letter” could require some brainstorming.
The following are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you write a sorry letter to your girlfriend/boyfriend:
-In this letter of apology don’t start by saying sorry or apologizing, be realistic
-Let him/her know indirectly about what you really want to say (sorry)
-Remember that you are not writing a romantic or I love you letter
-Write about your personal weakness that led you to the mistake
-Be careful with what you write (it could be misinterpreted)
-Do not add sorry poems or sorry quotes, just be natural
-Keep in mind that words are delicate in this situation
-Be very responsible and mature about the situation
-Make her understand that you were wrong
-Sprinkle a little humor in the confession
-Say sorry at the end of the letter
-Cross your fingers
Your partners reaction to letter will depend on many things that can vary from what type of mistake, how healthy is your relationship, trust, the time of the relationship it self, etc, but most importantly, communication.
Expressing sorry to your partner might be difficult if communication is poor. This could make it an obstacle.
But keep in mind that many people will never get to the point to say “I am sorry” because they are afraid rejection or humiliation.
Saying sorry means you are doing the right thing.
If your partner or ex partner does not want to accept your apology, then he/she is the one who might have issues. As an imperfect human being, you (as well as him/her) have every right to be wrong at times and also have the right to say sorry, be heard and understood.
Just like you, your partner has the potential of committing similar mistakes. Whether he/she is your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife, there always be that special need of understanding.
Your partner should know that “Contrary to what many think, forgiveness is not a synonym of forgetting, rather it is to accept the bad that has been done to us, to accept that we are imperfect beings and therefore others like us are entitled to make mistakes.”
“… to forgive is humility to realize that everyone is entitled to it, and that we are not anybody to neglect forgiveness.”